"Ask Me" In Rentmen Profiles

Discussion in 'Ask An Escort' started by Jakeenct, Dec 4, 2016.

  1. Jakeenct

    Jakeenct Journeyman

    Just curious as to what this means to others beyond the obvious. (Safe Sex/BB)
    Last edited: Dec 17, 2016
  2. Just the obvious.
  3. MikeBiDude

    MikeBiDude Count

    Been discussed before, bothers some posters, others not so much. Bottom line is that it means "ask me"
  4. MikeyGMin

    MikeyGMin Viscount

    I used to skip the "ask me" ads but they have become so prevalent that I got on board. It just adds one step. A quick text saying that you saw the ad, are interested in meeting, and what is their hourly rate. I've had great luck with guys getting back to me very quickly.

    My newest favorites have "ask me" and I'm sure glad I did! :p
  5. Jakeenct

    Jakeenct Journeyman

    In most cases would it mean they are opened to bareback or riskier activities? The subject is "Safe/BB" and curious as to how some of these "ask me" exchanges can go....
  6. jimboivyo

    jimboivyo Count

    ask me with rate = just sent a message and figure it out

    ask with safe sex = for me, move on to the next guy
  7. UpDownUnder

    UpDownUnder Journeyman

    On the other hand, for me....

    Ask me with rate = move on to the next guy

    Ask me with safe sex = send a message and figure it out.
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  8. NowOrNever

    NowOrNever Master

    Rate: Ask me

    Safe sex/BB: Ask me

    Position: Ask me

    So you write to the escort and ask for clarification, and he replies that he doesn't discuss rates, safe sex, or positions over the phone. You have to hire him to find out the answers to all of the above.

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  9. Lance_Navarro

    Lance_Navarro LanceSF.com

    I appreciate your perspective on this. I make my rates very clear, but the topic of whether or not to use condoms is something I discuss with each client. I respect that some enjoy the feeling of skin on skin, while others are only comfortable with a condom. I would hope that guys wouldn't make assumptions about my sexual health based on the fact that I'm open when it comes to such things. I'm HIV-, on PrEP and tested every 3 months. I've heard clients say that they are apprehensive to hire someone cause they have seen a video or pictures of him having bareback sex. TRUST ME, just because a guy is in porn that uses condoms doesn't say anything about his sex practices off camera, and vice versa.

    On Rentmen you only have 3 options, "Safe Only" (which I take issue with the phrasing because I assume by "safe" they mean a physical barrier, but PrEP is a chemical barrier), "Anything Goes" (which I wouldn't ever say since I have boundaries), and "Ask Me", which to me says that it's a discussion that I am open to having.
    Last edited: Dec 5, 2016
  10. The question is what obvious means?

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  11. evensteven

    evensteven Apprentice

    What I don’t like about “ask me” is that it tends to lead to the kind of explicit communications that I don’t want written down or even necessarily spoken until we already trust each other. But at the same time, I understand that not everything can be explained accurately using a few simple check boxes. It is a real conundrum.
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  12. TopTierTop

    TopTierTop Knight

    I dont do the "Ask me" thing. In regards to rates, to me it would give the impression that I charge different prices to different clients or depending on how badly I want a client on a particular day. At the very least, I don't want it to sound like my rates are negotiable. They never are. There is enough to do to ensure my client's expectations are going to be exceeded when we meet without having to add convincing him that my rate is justified. My rate is for giving 100% to my clients, and since I never give less, I never take less.

    I don't doubt that others have a different point of view that makes perfect sense for them, though, just as my way makes perfect sense for me.
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  13. BaronArtz

    BaronArtz Count

    I don't mind 'ask me' at all. What's the big deal? Just ask. They want you to ask the question. Just do it.

    I have been hiring guys who don't advertise at all - found them through word of mouth. Or guys who are no longer advertising because they have an established client base. In either case, I had to ask what the 'fee' was. No big deal. You ask. They tell.
  14. Meo

    Meo Master

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  15. SelfIndulgent

    SelfIndulgent Apprentice

    Lance this was such a lucid response. Much respect. ;)
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  16. +1

    I, too, am HIV- and on PrEP. I've also heard clients express reluctance or refusal to hire an escort because they've seen the escort having bareback sex in porn. I choose "ask me" when it comes to safer sex preferences because I think it's worth having an actual conversation about what's OK and not OK. I've been on the soapbox about this before - safe no longer equals condoms only all the time and it's important to me, not just as an escort, but as a sex-positive human being, to discuss these issues with my partners.
  17. coriolis888

    coriolis888 Baron

    I, also, want to know.

    Generally, I ignore ads that say “ask me” or similar words.

    However, every now and again I come across an ad with photos that is unusually appealing.

    Twice this month, I responded to two different “ask me” ads. I texted and/or e-mailed the escort and asked what the “donation” or “rate” is.

    In both instances, I received a very friendly response asking me when I want to get together. However, my question about the rate was not included in the response!

    I sent a followup response advising the escort that he had not told me his rate.

    In return, I received additional friendly messages repeating the question asking me when we would meet but the rate was, again, not mentioned. This went back and forth for the third time with the rate omitted. Finally, I decided to let it go and stop communicating with the two escorts.

    With one of the escorts, after two days of silence, I got a response from the escort complaining to me stating that I was not serious about meeting and that I had wasted his time. Hilariously, the escort’s rate still was not included in the final message.

    In summary, although some people like the “ask me” thing, I find it for the birds. I won’t be answering any “ask me” ads at any time in the future (I hope).
  18. Jakeenct

    Jakeenct Journeyman

    I forgot there are two areas where "ask me" may appear and the one I was mainly referring to was Safe Sex/BB
  19. MikeBiDude

    MikeBiDude Count

    4 areas?
    Rate (in and out), orientation, position, safe sex
  20. TopTierTop

    TopTierTop Knight

    My guess is that if YOU had suggested a rate, you would have gotten the same reply..."when do you want to meet? Because he probably would have taken any offer he found reasonable unless he already had someone offering more at that time. I see these "Ask Me" profiles sometimes when I look at other escorts' profiles, and my reaction is always that the escort has not put a specific value on his services, and I think that is a mistake. There are probably other reasons why some don't, but that is always my first thought when I see that. I set my rate, put it in my profile, and expect to live up to it with any client I meet. I don't negotiate rates, but I do ensure that they are getting every penny's worth. If I don't think I can make that guarantee, I don't take the client in the first place.