I just got back from a weekend in NYC. Since there is a bit of a discussion right now on the Adonis party, I figured I would give a brief trip report of my weekend. I am a mid 40s, lets say late middle 40s (sounds better than late 40s!) very overweight balding guy. I mention that solely to give some perspective, a young good looking 20-something would probably have a very different experience and observations doing exactly the same things. Also, since I know people from a couple of these places are here these forums, I am just making some observations, I am not trying to be mean or nasty. If you do venture to the city as a tourist, keep in mind that though there are "gay neighborhoods", most of the stuff ids spread out still. And in a city as big as NYC, there is both something for everyone, as well s enough everyone to fully support business outside of being identified as solely "gay" oriented. So if you are looking for things to do, forget about the gay guides and just look for the types of places you want. You will fit in. Getting into the stuff of interest to this site, I first decided to check out some adult stores. I read about this place called the Blue Door Video shop. What I wasn't expecting was a regular video shop, that also happened to sell adult videos and a few toys. There used to be a time when adult shops were... fun. If any of them had movie booths, I missed them. In all cases, none of them on a Thursday night around 9 or so had anyone there. I also found a few on 8th ave somewhere, I don't even know where I was (I get lost in New York easily) One had a huge selection of adult toys, including several gay ones. There was an Indian clerk there. I never experienced before a clerk following me around trying to suggest sex toys to me before. It was definitely a New York moment. So, yeah, the two big things - the Adonis Nude Party and the Cock Bar. I went to the Adonis Party first. This was actually not my first trip - I went sometime on one of my trips several months ago when stars and dates aligned. It is downstairs (why is every place in NE York up or down a steep, long flight of stairs?) in what I think is an S&M club on an otherwise quiet residential street. You enter by means of a long, kind of sketchy hallway, but don't let that put you off. The place isn't bad - not a high-end club or something you find in Montreal, but in some ways I kind of like the more basement feel - kind of gives it just a little edgy vibe. You pay your admission, walk in, and a bunch of guys are standing around. Eventually it occurs to you some of them are naked. Maybe I am a bit jaded, maybe I am just slow, but somehow that whole buzz of walking around with a dozen or more sexy good looking guys just waiting for you to walk up to them...just didn't happen! I mean, it was just like it was any other normal strip club. Now part of this might be because the guys are a bit pushy. Let's face it, they are there to make money, so as soon as you make eye contact with any of the naked guys, they are going to make a bee line to you. If you are a nervous first timer, don't be scared that you are going to be looked over because you are not good looking or someone's type, don't worry. The hot guys will come over. And in that case anyways, don't be afraid of looking the guy over - that's what they are here for. They will be leading you, you will not be pushing them. On the other hand, that is the big problem with the party - it is just another strip club, albeit no stage. I, and I noticed a few other guys, seemed to have problem checking out guys bodies from afar. Let's face it - the reason I wanted to go was to get a chance to stare at some good dick. The whole thrill of being openly naked. But any time one of the guys got the slightest sense they were being checked out, they make a bee line for you and try to sell you on a lap dance. It is like going into a cell phone store and the sales people constantly hounding you. What an odd idea to have these naked guys standing far too close to you begging you to sit naked on your lap while you feel their chest... wait, maybe that isn't quite as bad as I thought, now that I think about it. Anyways, I will say the dancers looked good, if a bit overly shaved. They are more the muscly types, mostly (though not all) straight. There was one token twink there, with a feather thingy around his neck. I think it was more to make sure there was something for everyone. Lap daces are $20 a song more or less. They do seem to not do very good job keeping track, but then again the ones I did I think it was more they lost track too. There are two dance areas - a loft level upstairs and a side room downstairs. Upstairs is a bit roomier, though as I am not good with heights we had to stick to the back wall. There is a little more light upstairs, makes it easier to see. This is good and bad. Leave it at that. Actually, no - for people who have been to other clubs, like those up north, the daces are pretty tame. Yeah you can tough the dancers, so will let you touch more than others, but anything I did, or saw being done, didn't go much further. Not saying nothing does, but I didn't see any of that anyways. On the other hand, The guys themselves were far more talkative and social - you actually made a connection with the dancer. One guy I had a dance with both the last time I visited and this time. in fact he and a few other guys recognized me, which is better than I did. The first guy, I forget his name but he is a regular dancer at the parties. Straight guy, who is open to talking about straight sex and stuff ( this is far more of a turn on than straight guys think, hint hint). He supposedly did some solo stuff. There was some touching going on, he did introduce me to some nipple play I was previously unaware I would even tolerate, let alone enjoy. I mention this because the dancers here actually made an effort to find what you like, instead of just pressing their bodies against you and gyrating a little bit. The second guy turned out to be one of the headliners, Jackson Grant. To be honest I was only going to do one lapdace, but this guy showed up a bit later. Unlike almost everyone else, he had hair on his chest and full pubic hair. I don't care for the shaved look. He seemed a bit awkward while standing around at the bar - he was the only guy I had to approach myself, and as an aside for newbies, remember they are looking to do this. Don't be bashful. They will keep the conversation going and get to the right points before you work up the courage. But in the back room, he was incredibly social. To the point that at one point I ( and maybe he?) actually seemed to forget we were doing a lapdance. again it didn't go too far although I sure if I wanted more something could be arranged elsewhere, but at the same time the dances themselves seemed a bit more enjoyable, at least the ones I had. So was it worth it? Price is a bit steep, and quite frankly the titillation of the naked guys was less than what I have experienced elsewhere. What I kept wishing was that the dancers were not so pushy and trying to sell lapdances. I wish you could just stand around and have a conversation with them without having to be pressured. That would something more unique. Then again, this is the north east and is probably the best you are going to get given laws.